How social media has affected the way we approach forming face to face friendships and relationships. Has it affected our social skills positively or negatively?
Social Media is engrained into our everyday routine. Each day, we scroll through various platforms such as Instagram, twitter, or snapchat, interacting with friends online whether old or new. This constant use of online platforms to engage and communicate with other individuals online has affected our social skills when it comes to face to face interaction. Whether it’s a positive or negative change is up for debate.
There are many aspects of Social Media that can cause us as individuals to approach new friendships or relationships offline in a negative way. This is mostly surrounding the aspect of ‘online dating’. Online dating has shown to have had a negative impact on the way we approach forming new relationships as ‘social norms’ have now changed from offline to online. It was normal for generations before us to meet their partners in an organic way. Meeting at a bar, grocery store, or sports game for example. All of which still occur, but as dating shifts online, these situations are growing sparse. “Conventional notions of romantic relationship initiation hinged upon an individual’s chance encounters with other single adults in his/her geographic proximity ….. Online dating sites break free from these conventions by providing individuals with “increased information about a wider pool of potential partners than usually available in face-to-face encounters”(Ramirez, Bryant Sumner, Fleuriet and Cole, 2014).
It’s easier for people to get a ‘feel’ of what a person is like online before you are required to take the relationship offline. However, as Spencer Palmer Christensen states, “… social media users express certain elements of themselves that they want others to see. In other words, the user manipulate the preferences of their profile to build an online identity”, demonstrating there are dangers to this preferred form of communication.
However, the counter argument, supported by students response to my twitter poll, demonstrates the idea that social Media can have a positive impact on a social skills. In fact this was supported by an article ‘A Study on Positive and Negative Effects of Social Media on Society‘, demonstrating social Media can help teens and adolescents social skills. Social Media has allowed students to engage online before they are required to meet in person. Access to media platforms such as Instagram, or twitter has provided individuals with the opportunity to get to know others, get comfortable, and be yourself online, which overtime allows for an easier transition from online to real life. As discussed by Prabhakararao Sampathirao in his chapter ‘Social Media and Social Skills’, in ‘The International Journal of Indian Psychology, instead of developing vital social skills needed for face to face conversation and face to face interaction, starting as children, individuals are choosing to communicate over technology and social media. As positive as these online interactions can be, “A balance needs to be found between online chatting, tweeting, video chat, and actual face to face interactions” (Prabhakararao Sampathirao, 2016).
Using this opportunity to research this topic, I want to gather information from fellow students, drawing from personal experiences and opinions, and determine whether Social Media has had a positive or negative impact on our social skills and communication when taken offline. In current times, this topic hasn’t been more relevant to society and students. Throughout 2020 individuals were forced to rely more heavily on social media and online platforms as forms of communication.
References:
Akram, W. and Kumar, R., 2017. A Study on Positive and Negative Effects of Social Media on Society. International Journal of Computer Sciences and Engineering, [online] 5(10), pp.351-354. Available at: <https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Waseem-Akram-19/publication/323903323_A_Study_on_Positive_and_Negative_Effects_of_Social_Media_on_Society/links/5ab1c064a6fdcc1bc0bfefef/A-Study-on-Positive-and-Negative-Effects-of-Social-Media-on-Society.pdf> [Accessed 17 March 2021].
Prabhakararao Sampathirao., 2016. Social Media and Social Skills. The International Journal of Indian Psychology, [online], Volume 3(issue 4, No.57), Pg 57-64. [Accessed 19 March 2021].
Ramirez, A., Bryant Sumner, E., Fleuriet, C. and Cole, M., 2014. When Online Dating Partners Meet Offline: The Effect of Modality Switching on Relational Communication Between Online Daters. Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, 20(1), pp.99-114. [Accessed 15 March 2021]
Spencer Palmer Christensen., 2018. ‘Social Media Use and Its Impact on Relationships and Emotions’, BYU scholar sArchive, Pg 5, [Accessed 17 March 2021].



































